And it may be that this is just straight-up not a thing he’s comfortable with, which is perfectly fine-I’ll just need to buy a lot more batteries, fast. I just don’t know how to start doing those things in our relationship, but I’d like to find some ways of maintaining our sexual connection as well as the emotional one while we’re apart. When we are physically in the same space, he tends to be a lot less verbally expressive during sex I, on the other hand, love to hear a partner talk about how good X or Y feels. I’ve tried testing the waters with statements that are sexy-flirty, but I don’t get much of a response beyond things like “I love you too” or “I miss holding you.” Those things are true, and I appreciate them, but I also want to get off when I talk to him. I worry that I’m going to sound ridiculous, or crass in a not-fun way, when I ask for it in the moment, because I can’t rely on physical chemistry to smooth over any awkwardness. When I brought up the idea before we moved, he seemed game, but now I’m not sure how to actually do it.